Peace isn't about elimination--peace is about acceptance. Peace isn't about making others into what we think they should be--it's about accepting them as they are. Peace comes from us, from our inner spiritual lives, not from outside influences. If we want to have peace of mind and peace of heart, then we must work to develop our own ability to accept and even celebrate differences in the ways that people look, talk, feel, dream, relate to others, and live their own lives. If we want to have peace, then we must focus on getting our own lives straight, and not worry about straightening out others.
''Peace is present right here and now, in ourselves and in everything we
do and see. The question is whether or not we are in touch with it. We
don't have to travel far away to enjoy the blue sky. We don't have to
leave our city or even our neighborhood to enjoy the eyes of a beautiful
child. Even the air we breathe can be a source of joy.'' Thich Nhat Hanh.
I would love to give peace as a gift, but unfortunately, it's not something that we can pass on to each other. Peace is the result of introspection, awareness, acceptance, and compassion, and it's something that only we can achieve for ourselves. Your peace is inside of you, just waiting to be set free once you get rid of all the other stuff that's covering it up--those many mental traps into which we all fall, such as holding on to things, resentment, jealousy, anger, and especially the expectations we have of events and other people.
Find your peace and free it. When you do, you'll find that so many of the things that you consider to be drastic and worth stress and worry suddenly don't have the hold over you that they used to, and you'll be able to begin living a balanced life that's focused on making the most of your own life and gifts instead of striving constantly to achieve the peace that already resides in your spirit.