We work hard to disown the parts of our lives that were painful, difficult, or sad. But just as we can’t rip chapters out of a book and expect the story to still make sense, so we cannot rip chapters out of our past and expect our lives to still make sense.
Keep every chapter of your life intact, and keep on turning the pages. Sooner or later you’ll understand why every scene, every chapter was needed.
When I was younger, I exhausted myself trying to take charge of myself, others, and situations. Until one day it dawned on me that I would not gain control until I lost the need to have it. Until I could let it be okay, to not be okay.