When I was young and things got difficult at home--usually between my mother and me--I would run off to my grandmother's house. It wasn't much of an investment in courage because it was only two blocks away. It did, however, provide me with immediate refuge from whatever situation I was escaping. Mom-Mom, as I called my grandmother, was careful never to take sides and always had chocolate-chip cookies in the owl-shaped cookie jar on the kitchen stove. She also let me sit in her cozy lap while we listened to the radio.
Mom-Mom always had a lot of food in the house, and it was readily available. She always said, "You can take as much as you want, but you must eat everything you take." She didn't like wasting anything, especially food. That rule seemed fine with me and helped me remain guilt free as I topped off my pockets with cookies and candy every time I left the kitchen.
One evening at dinner, I put much more food on my plate than I could eat. As Mom-Mom put it, "Your eyes were bigger than your belly." Even with my pleading, she would not back down. She made me sit there until my plate was clean. It took several hours, and I was very ill. It was an experience I will never forget. That was the last time I made a pig of myself at Mom-Mom's house.
Little did I realize that that incident was a prime example of how we live our lives. It was about making choices we have to live with.
The real choices we make in life are the thoughts that we think and the beliefs that we hold as truth. Our thoughts and beliefs exist as minute waves of energy that operate in the universe to create the situations, circumstances, and relationships we experience as our life. And the universe is just like Mom-Mom--it gives you no slack. If you put thought energy into the universe, you must experience it. "As ye sow, so shall ye reap," says the Bible. And, as you know, at times it can be very uncomfortable experiencing your own creations.
The good news is that once you recognize that you are the source of your own experiences, you gain control over your life. Being the source, or cause, means that you can change situations that are giving you difficulty rather than blaming someone else or some other power.
It's a very simple concept once you understand it. But it is startling news for many, because it clearly says that we are all responsible for our own life situations. At first, many of us are not ready for such responsibility. When I was first introduced to the concept that "beliefs determine experience," I certainly didn't believe that I was responsible for all the seeming disasters that happened in my life. But there is nothing like good old experience to get one knowing the truth.
Most of us can see the results of the conscious choices that we make in our lives and, with a little contemplation, can recognize the link between our choices and the resulting experience. What's unknown to most of us is that every moment of our lives, we are also making choices from beliefs that we are not consciously aware of. These subconscious beliefs, in many cases, adversely impact what we are consciously choosing.
Here, as a reminder, is the simple technique that will help you shed some light on the subconscious beliefs that may be getting in your way. Ask yourself, "What would I have to believe to have that experience?" Continue asking and answering this question for yourself until you reach an answer that feels like an "aha." When you have a sudden realization--it will probably have emotion associated with it--you've reached the deep-seated, root-cause belief that is generating your undesirable experience. As you take responsibility for both your subconscious and conscious choices, you'll feel more confident and motivated to ferret out your limiting beliefs.
You deserve to experience all of your desires. Continue removing those restrictive limits, and let your power shine through.